Posted by: frankjwalker | November 13, 2017

Beat those Holiday Blues

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Ways to Beat the Holiday Blues

Look around us the stress is at level orange we are running ourselves ragged.

It doesn’t seem to be getting any better.

We all come under the holiday blues, sometime during this season.

Check out the list below for possible solutions.

  1. You need to connect with people. The worst thing any of us can do during the season is to isolate ourselves. Get out be around people.
  2. Set realistic goals. Making a list and checking it twice isn’t just for Santa. Get organized and stick to your agenda.
  3. Make a budget and follow it. Especially during these times where money is tight you need to have a budget. You know deep in your heart that you can’t buy love so don’t try. A well thought out gift is better than quantity.
  4. Contact someone you’ve lost touch with. Call an old friend or a forgotten relative. Spread the love around by being there for someone.
  5.  Be honest with God about your situation. Don’t put on a front of good cheer if that isn’t the way things are. But don’t let the blues rule the reason for this season. Jesus was born in a poor manger. So don’t pout about your situation. Take the time to discover the real meaning of Christmas.
  6. Get plenty of rest. We run ourselves into the ground. Take some time to enjoy and relax.
  7. Let go of the past. Start fresh this year with a few new traditions and plans. Just because it has always been a certain way doesn’t mean you can’t change.
  8. Don’t overindulge in holiday foods. Enough said about this one.
  9. Don’t focus on what you don’t have – focus on what you do have
  10. Get out of yourself and into other people. You know you feel so much better when the spotlight is off you. Look around at all the needs in the community. Be the answer to others needs.

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 12, 2017

Know the Urgency…

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 10, 2017

Same Mind- Philippians 2

 

Philippians 2 and a marriage plan.

Paul in his letter to the Philippians writes about what we should be doing and thinking about as Christians. Married couples can learn much from the list Paul provides and should apply them to their spouse and marriage relationship.

 

  • Same mind.

Married couples are on a team.

Preferably on the same team.

Through good communication they:

work together,

love together,

believe together,

suffer together and

hope together.

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: frankjwalker | November 9, 2017

Sometimes it’s not in the book…

sometimes its not in the book

Sometimes it’s not in the book.

We are all searching for answers.

We want to do things right and we look for advice anywhere we can.

Some advice is good, some is not so good.

More often than not the advice we get doesn’t quite fit the situation we are in.

So, sometimes we have to make up our minds on our own without the help of others.

It takes prayer, insight and a time to do the right thing.

Yes, seek out advice wherever you can.

However, sometimes it all depends on you.

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 8, 2017

Smooth seas

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I am not a sailor.

But I understand that real sailors have experienced the seas in all their glory and all their danger.

A good sailor knows how to sail in all kinds of weather.

They are prepared for any and all possibilities.

So it should be with your own life. It would be nice if everyday was just wonderful. But guess what it just ain’t so.

So, you hope for the best and expect that there will be some bumps in the road along the way.

It is very likely going to rain on your parade every once in a while.

I live at the coast.

It’s beautiful here most of the time. I must underline “most of the time”.

So we are always, I really mean always ready for a change in the weather. We carry an extra coat in the car an umbrella and even a blanket or two.

You all that live where weather is real know what I am talking about. You just plan for weather changes and are prepared for all possibilities. It just makes common sense.

So if we know that about the weather why do we get so flumuxed  ( Is that a word?) when bad weather happens in our lives and relationships.

Smooth waters do not make you a good sailor, husband, wife, parent or employee.

It’s when the water gets rough that real sailors and relationships are made.

Hope for calm waters but be prepared for rough seas.

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-115

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Frank’s books are available @

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 7, 2017

Compassion-Philippians 2

Philippians 2 and a Marriage Plan.

Paul in his letter to the Philippians writes about what we should be doing and thinking about as Christians. Married couples can learn much from the list Paul provides and should apply them to their spouse and marriage relationship.

 

  • Compassion

Married couples when they are doing it right share a passion for each other and what they do and can do together.

It’s not all tickles and giggles there is some hard work in married life.

But couples that have compassion for their marriage can survive and thrive.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 6, 2017

Help, The Holidays are Here

Christmas lights

Yikes, the Holidays are almost here.

The Holidays can be wonderful and/or can be overwhelming.

Get a handle on them before they handle you. Here are some early bird hints as the Holidays fast approach.

  • Have a Plan.

Start now and decide how you want the Holidays to be. Don’t let the Holidays just happen. You have the time and it is better to be prepared.

  • Prioritize.

Know what matters, don’t guess. Food on the table trumps gifts under the tree. A vacation trip next summer over shadows immediate pleasures. Know what matters and do that.

  • Know your limits.

Yes, you have a credit card but you will have to pay the bills. Don’t go overboard or into debt just to please those around you. There are limits. Buy stuff that will last. Remember buy for quality and forget the idea that more is better.

  • Stick to it.

Yea, I know that “thing” the kids want is on sale. But don’t be swayed, stick to the plan. No impulse buying.

  • The kids won’t die.

No matter what they say your kids will not be harmed if they don’t get the latest, greatest gizmo or fashion.

  • Invest in experiences.

They won’t remember the stuff but will remember the time they spent with you. These experiences build memories. Memories last not toys.

  • Be honest.

You aren’t made out of money and the family needs to know that up front. Times are hard let everyone know the limits.

  • You can’t buy love.

Buying stuff for people does not prove how much you love them. Loving, caring, supporting, listening, helping and being present are real ways to show love. 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos

“A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 5, 2017

A Good Beginning…

 

 

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Posted by: frankjwalker | November 4, 2017

Encouraging Dads-Articles

This site is a great resource for dads and dads to be.

Wives and moms there is something there for you too.

Plus, you can check out three articles I wrote in the story section.

https://www.encouragingdads.com/

Posted by: frankjwalker | November 3, 2017

Affection- Phillipians 2

 

Philippians 2 and a marriage plan.

Paul in his letter to the Philippians writes about what we should be doing and thinking about as Christians. Married couples can learn much from the list Paul provides and should apply them to their spouse and marriage relationship.

Affection

Somewhere in your past, (Maybe it hasn’t passed? Good for you.) you really loved your spouse. It was all warm and fuzzy, puppy dog sweet and cuddly.

But somewhere along the way that all changed.

The job, the kids, the bills, you name it got in the way of the warm feelings you had for each other.

Understand this, that’s OK. You have grown, matured and hopefully your love has grown with you.

Your love should be like fine wine that gets better with age.

This love stuff has got to be worked at. It starts with you.

Time has made both of you better at being “you”.

Rejoice in that, relax in that and enjoy where you are now in your relationship.

Show your love for the one you married renew yourselves and your love relationship.

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

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