Posted by: frankjwalker | March 15, 2017

Love 35

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Day 35

1 Peter 4:8

Above all keep fervent in your love for one another…

 

We live in a depressing world.

It seems there’s a cloud over everything blocking out the sun. The economy, wars, pollution, and global warming are just a few things that are depressing. Should I go on? Those are the big pictures of world depression, but depression is rampant on a personal level too

A psychologist once told me that depression is the common cold of mental health. Depression is so prevalent; it’s out there like a cold and a lot of people out there are depressed.

In the face of this dark, gloomy world that we ask the question, what can we do? Well of course my answer is to love. And as the apostle Peter says, keep fervent in your love. That means work at your love, be passionate about your love, get out there and be a lover. Love your spouse, your family, and your friends.

Fan the flames of your love; build a fire, a big fire against that cold, depressed world that surrounds us.

Your love for one another is the only real protection against what can be a cruel and merciless world. When you’re depressed, there seems to be no way out. Depression can have a hold on you that seems like you could drown in it. The problem with depression is that it grows. Everything form the price of gas to your heartburn causes you to add to your depression.

The love of family and friends can light the way of the darkness of depression.

The warmth of the love around you can help us from falling into depression to begin with. What love you have in your life, strengthen, encourage, and build. Surround yourself with the people that you love and who love you. Rekindle lost loves, and ignite new loves. In all of this come back to God, the one who loved you first?

In this big, depressing world, the only thing that will protect you is the love you have for one another.

 

  1. So you may need a kick in the pants here. Your sitting there by yourself depressed that nobody loves you.

  2. There has got to be somebody that you can contact that cared about you. You know there is someone. Find them contact them. Remember that you are loved.

  3. Be proactive reach out. Talk to somebody.

  4. Understand that God loves you and will not let you down. Stand firm in His love, first.

  5. Clean up your act. Be lovable.

 

 

This is an excerpt from my book,

Love

A 30 Day Biblical Approach to Love

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

 

Frank’s books are available @

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Posted by: frankjwalker | March 14, 2017

Love 34

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Day 34

Hebrews 13:1

Let love of the brethren continue…

 

Love isn’t just a one-time thing; it’s supposed to go on and on.

Too many people fall out of love. So the question must be asked. Did they really love in the first place?

Love must grow.

Love, like wine, gets better with age. I don’t drink but that’s what I heard. The vow of love you have from yesterday isn’t enough. Love is a today and tomorrow thing. You need to love and say I love you every day.

Just saying “I love you” has nothing to do with living the “I love yous”.

Husband and wives, parents and even their children say I love you and go on with their lives without really meaning those words.

For love to grow, for love to continue, it must be constantly nurtured, catered to and tended to.

Daily acts of love must become part of any loving relationships. Love is an action word; it can never be static. A gesture, a touch, a kindness, is all part of showing your love and allowing it to continue.

 

  1. When was the last time you had a date with your loved one? That long?

  2. When was the last time you got your loved one a gift or did something special for them?

  3. Do something. Do it today.

 

This is an excerpt from my book,

Love

A 30 Day Biblical Approach to Love

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

 Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: frankjwalker | March 13, 2017

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Posted by: frankjwalker | March 13, 2017

Love 33

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Day 33

1Timothy 6:10

For the love of money is the root for all evil…

 

Money, its root is what is important.

But, if I had a little more money I would ___________ (fill in the blank).

Money isn’t evil; Timothy says that.

But money can cause all kinds of evil. Envy, lust, and coveting are just a few of the evils I can mention off the top of my head.

Just talking about money conjures up all kinds of wants and desires.

Ask someone what they would do if they won the lottery or were given a million dollars. A million isn’t that much anymore. People already have a list in their heads of things they would do or places they would go. People spend a considerable amount of their time thinking about money.

People think about how they can get more money and what more money will get them. Casinos, lotteries, and TV game shows flaunt cash around to entice us and build a fire under the desire pretty much all of us have for more of the green stuff.

Money is necessary.

It provides our country and the world’s economics a basis for a timely exchange of goods. We have to have money.

Again money isn’t in itself evil, but the love of it can cause all sorts of evils. Therein lies the rub.

We need money to provide for the necessities in life. However we don’t have to waste our energies and allegiances loving money.

 

  1. OK play the game, what would you do if you had a million extra dollars? (Who knows you might already be a millionaire?)

  2. How would it make your life different? How would it make those around you friends and family different knowing you had an extra million?

  3. What would the true cost be of having a million extra dollars? (Spiritually, mentally even physically)

  4. Is it worth the cost? Why? Why not?

 

This is an excerpt from my book,

Love

A 30 Day Biblical Approach to Love

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

 

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: frankjwalker | March 12, 2017

Self Help

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Self-Help

How to stop time: kiss.

How to stop time: read.

How to escape time: music.

How to feel time: write

How to release time: breath.

“Self-help,” from Matt Haig’s Reasons To Stay Alive

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

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Posted by: frankjwalker | March 11, 2017

Getting Along with Relatives

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Getting Along with Relatives.

( ***I should have published this around the holidays. When families get together)

You can’t choose them.

They came with the packaged deal of birth and marriage.

Those strange people that are your family or extended family, sometimes cause more problems than strangers do.

But you have to gather with them at times like it or not. Holidays, weddings and the like are all occasions that you have to endure and live through.

So how do you get along with those you are supposed to love and cherish?

Here are a few hints.

  1. Show sincere interest.

Ask questions. Show that you’re really interested. Even if you have no idea of what they are talking about. Be sincere.

  1. Have one on one time.

Sit down with your family. Take some one on one time. Just being in close proximity can go a long way in easing tensions. Lean in, make eye contact.

  1. Be supportive.

Maybe you don’t care for their favorite sports team. Maybe you dislike their political views. Show that you care and support their likes and passions. Disagree without hurt. Be calm and keep calm.

  1. See what’s underneath the tension.

What’s driving your relative? What is coming up from the past that has caused this opinion? What events caused this view?

Do some digging. It shows you care and releases a lot of tension and strife.

  1. Give respect and dignity.

OK so you can’t stand what someone in the family has said. It’s a free country they do have a right.

Respect their view. Give them the dignity they deserve for their opinion.

  1. Show patience.

Take a deep breath. Take another one.

  1. Concentrate on common experiences.

What do you have in common. Talk about those things. Teams, TV shows, favorite places or foods. Steer the conversation away from the contention.

Even you can’t get away from the topic, find a place where you both can agree.

OK, here is something to consider.

Maybe you need some self-reflection. Could you be the person that nobody in the family can deal with? Are you the one folks are avoiding?

Sobering as that might be, you have to consider that you might need to change.

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

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Posted by: frankjwalker | March 10, 2017

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Posted by: frankjwalker | March 10, 2017

Love 32

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Day 32

Genesis 29:20

…because of his love for her.

 

Can you hear Diana Rose sing “Ain’t no mountain high enough, ain’t not valley low enough, ain’t no river wide enough… to keep me from getting to you.”

Jacob worked for the love of Rachel “and it seemed but a few days”. There are two lessons we can learn from these two lovers.

First, love takes work.

After that giddy, sweaty palm, can’t sleep, first love thing comes the reality of the cost of your love for another person. You change, she changes, he changes, and compromises have to be made. What once were endearing quirks are now annoying bad habits. The freedoms you used to have are now shared negotiations as you adapt to each other. Selfish becomes selfless.

The second thing we learn from these Old Testament lovers is this: if you truly love someone all the work, all the changes and annoyances that must be dealt with mean nothing compared to your love for one another.

No mountain, valley, river, or years of hard work can keep you from loving and being loved.

 

  1. How far are you willing to go for your loved one? Name the limits. I will love until…I will love if… I will love except…

  2. Are there limits to your love? Be honest and confront your limits.

  3. If there are conditions placed on your love is it true love? If it isn’t true love what is it?

 

This is an excerpt from my book,

Love

A 30 Day Biblical Approach to Love

 Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

 Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

Posted by: frankjwalker | March 9, 2017

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Love 33

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Day 31

Colossians 3:14

Beyond all these things put on love, which is the perfect bond of unity.

 

Paul tells us in this verse to “put on” love. He wants us to put love on like a suit and tie, our Sunday best, or even a uniform. Put on love it’s a good metaphor.

So cover yourself in love. Make love your fashion statement.

Sometimes loving people isn’t much fun especially when you get nothing in return. The day in, day out grind of making a living and dealing with what’s dished out at you isn’t a lot of fun. Some days are better than others, but it seems most days are just trying to survive.

So what do you do? You put on love.

Like a clean shirt or blouse, you put love on in the morning and you go out and meet the world. You do the same the next day and the next. That love that you put on is the only thing that will protect you from the negative stuff the world will throw your way. Just as God love renews, your love will do the same for you and those you touch and deal with.

  1. If you could design a style for yourself that would reflect love, what would it look like? I hope it isn’t something goofy. Lovers aren’t court jesters.

  2. What could an attitude of loving do for your day?

  3. What could love protect you from? Name it?

This is an excerpt from my book,

Love

A 30 Day Biblical Approach to Love

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

 Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

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