Posted by: frankjwalker | July 13, 2017

Dealing with Disappointment Part 2

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Dealing with disappointment

OK, so it didn’t work out, it fell apart, it just didn’t last and you’re disappointed, very disappointed.

1. Know what matters most.

So, what matters most to you?

What really matters?

Know what’s important in your life and do that and not much else.

2. Reach out.

Don’t be alone.

Get out there, talk to friends.

But only friends that will give you support not drag you down.

Find a mentor, someone who has wisdom.

Seek counsel if you need it.

Reach out for a helping hand.

  1. What can you learn from this?

Failure can be a learning experience. It really can be.

So, what happened and what can you learn from what happened?

Don’t do it that way again is a go place to start.

  1. Positive self-talk.

Above all stop the negative talk.

Stop it right away. Now!

You can be your own worst enemy.

Get off the negative train.

You are in control. You really are.

Take the next step. Do the next best thing.

 

Resource:

Samantha Bordman

Psychology Today

3/4/16

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

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Posted by: frankjwalker | July 12, 2017

Dealing with Disappointment

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Dealing with Disappointment

OK, so it didn’t work out, it fell apart, it just didn’t last and you’re disappointed, very disappointed.

  1. Do the opposite.

You’re going to be blue, eat stuff you shouldn’t and dig a deeper hole. Hey, do just the opposite.

Clean up, clean out, start a new page and move on.

Buy yourself something, don’t go crazy though.

Take a breath. Do something new and different.

Have a party or go to a party. Don’t go crazy, but have some fun.

  1. What would X do?

What would so and so do and do that.

What advice would you give someone in your situation?

Do that. Take your own advice.

  1. Use your strengths.

Don’t know your strengths?

Make a list. Ask someone to list your strengths.

Use your super powers to bring about change

Quit putting yourself down and play on the strengths you know you have.

 

Resource:

Samantha Bordman

Psychology Today

3/4/16

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

walkertherapy.org

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Posted by: frankjwalker | July 11, 2017

Being Busy…

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

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walkertherapy.wordpress.com

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Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

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Posted by: frankjwalker | July 11, 2017

Summer is Story Time

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Story Telling

Its summer, it’s hot, the nights are long and it’s the perfect time to slow down a bit, to tell the stories about your family.

I truly believe in sharing family stories and through the telling of those stories cementing family bonds and traditions.

We all need to know and understand our part in this evolving story we call family. Here are some stories that you have already shared yet haven’t talked about for awhile and need to again.

  • Your Love Story:

Do your children know how you met your spouse and how you fell in love?

Have you talked about your wedding?

Have you talked about what attracted you to your spouse and how you have kept your love alive until now?

This story is important to your family.

It establishes your views on love and models what they can expect in their own search for companionship.

The love you have for your spouse is a first glimpse your kids have of the love God has for them.

Get out the wedding pictures and share your love.

  • Your Family Stories:

You need to share your family history with your children.

They need to be proud of the heritage that has been handed down through the generations.

They need to know who else has freckles in the family and where their big ears came from.

They need to know about the accomplishments people in the family have made.

If you don’t know the stories do some research, make it a family project. Kids today need to be connected to their culture, family and their place in the story.

  • Your Faith Story:

Most important are the stories of your journey with God.

They need to know why you are a Christian.

They need to know the choices you made to come to a belief in God’s saving grace.

Your kids need to know the faith they share with the generations that have gone on before you.

 

So this summer take time sharing your family’s stories.

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

walkertherapy.org

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

 

 

Posted by: frankjwalker | July 10, 2017

Summer Clouds…

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Waste your time this summer.

Take some naps.

Dream a little more.

Relax.

Get a cool drink and say ahhh!

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

walkertherapy.org

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

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Posted by: frankjwalker | July 8, 2017

45 Years

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45 Years of Marriage

On July 8th 1972 my wife Suzanne and I were married.

Look at the smiles on that young couples faces.

The smiles are still on our faces even after 45 years of marriage.

What’s our secret to a long marriage? There is no secret.

We have had our ups and downs. We have had trying times.

But from the beginning, even before we even walked smiling down that aisle. We committed ourselves to each other and to our marriage.

We committed to communicating with, to changing, to growing and to loving each other.

Forever!

I love Suzanne even more now than when we walked out of that church 45 years ago.

I.L.Y.

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

walkertherapy.org

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

 

Posted by: frankjwalker | July 7, 2017

Summer; Time to De-clutter

 

Summer, Time to De-clutter

Take some time in the next couple days at least in the next couple weeks especially with the beginning of the summer to de-clutter your life a little bit.

Take a few minutes and in each of the rooms of your home to get rid all that clutter that you gathered that over the cold winter months.

  • De-clutter

Take this time you take to clean up and clean out will clear your mind as well as your home.

Plus clearing out all that clutter will make you feel cooler in the hot summer months to come.

  • Take a few minutes…

So take a few minutes clean out all that stuff.

Get rid of some things, put other stuff in the closet and clean up your life.

Open the windows let the seasons light in.

  • Enjoy…

Get rid of the clutter in your mind, in your rooms and enjoy the summer.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

walkertherapy.org

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Posted by: frankjwalker | July 6, 2017

Wants are not needs…

 

 

Wants are not needs.

 

Please understand this, wants are not needs.

Most of us want a lot of things, mostly things.

But that is far from what we truly need.

We need love, companionship, enough food, water, clothing, shelter, safety and hope for the future.

Needs are essential yet sometimes altruistic and lofty.

Wants are above the basic needs and many times are self-centered.

Things, in themselves do not provide for the basic needs we all have.

Many times, getting the wants only covers over the basic needs we long for.

Striving for the wants only diminishes what we need.

What I want is not what I need.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

559-904-9028

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

Posted by: frankjwalker | July 5, 2017

Facts, Facts…

Hot and Spicy

For the first time, a majority of consumers say they prefer hot or spicy sauces, dips, and condiments and bolder flavors.

Chile sauce, cayenne, Sriracha, and habanero and ancho peppers are delivering the “new” heat.

(Technomic, 2013).

Posted by: frankjwalker | July 4, 2017

Independence Day, Happy 4th

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Happy 4th of July to all of you.

Enjoy the day.

Celebrate the freedoms we have in this country.

Say a prayer for our future and our children’s future.

Really ask God to bless America and believe that He has and He will.

 

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