Posted by: frankjwalker | May 12, 2017

Bedroom Rules 3

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Five Rules for the Bedroom

Here are the rules I think you should keep in your “adult married” bedroom.

These are physical rules and they don’t deal with whatever happens between you and your spouse when you are in the bedroom. Maybe I will deal with that later.

Sometimes your bedroom, the “master bedroom”, becomes command center for the entire household. The master bedroom, your bedroom becomes the hospital, business center, counseling room, time out room and theater all in one.

It is my goal to suggest that your bedroom become what it is really intended for.

Here are five suggestions/rules that you might try.

No T.V. in the bedroom.

T.V. can be such a distraction in the bedroom.

First, the T.V. can really damage your sleep patterns. The blue light from the tube messes with your circadian rhythms.

The light from your T.V. signals the brain that it is day time. You want to go to sleep not stay awake so get rid of the tube. There is nothing on the T.V. that’s worth the loss of a good night’s sleep.

In fact, you should probably shut down the T.V. viewing way before you get in bed.

Especially don’t watch the nightly news. It will just upset you and give you nightmares.

Second, the T.V. can be a distraction from your love making.

Lovemaking is so much more important than the latest episode of CSI, The Walking Dead or anything else. It really is.

Plus, you know as well as I do T.V. is addicting and you can go way past your needed time for sleep. Time flies watching the big black box.

Plus, you don’t want to be glancing over at the tube while you’re “involved”.

Get that T.V. thing out of your bedroom.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

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Posted by: frankjwalker | May 11, 2017

Rules in the Bedroom 2

Rules in the bedroom

 

Five Rules for the Bedroom

Here are the rules I think you should keep in your “adult married” bedroom.

These are physical rules and they don’t deal with whatever happens between you and your spouse when you are in the bedroom. Maybe I will deal with that later.

Sometimes your bedroom, the “master bedroom”, becomes command center for the entire household. The master bedroom, your bedroom becomes the hospital, business center, counseling room, time out room and theater all in one.

It is my goal to suggest that your bedroom become what it is really intended for.

Here are five suggestions/rules that you might try.

2. Bedroom as Sanctuary.

Your bedroom should be an oasis, a sanctuary, a reprieve from the real world out there in the rest of the house.

Take a little effort to make your bedroom a great place to sleep and have intimacy.

Decorate, supply and provide for your particular needs in your special room.

A comfortable bed and bedding, black out curtains, lighting and possibly scents and accents are recommended for your relaxation and enjoyment.

Take the time and energy to make your bedroom a place for your private retreat.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

walkertherapy.org

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Posted by: frankjwalker | May 10, 2017

Rules in the Bedroom…

Rules in the bedroom

 

Five Rules for the Bedroom

Here are the rules I think you should keep in your “adult married” bedroom.

These are physical rules and they don’t deal with whatever happens between you and your spouse when you are in the bedroom. Maybe I will deal with that later.

Sometimes your bedroom, the “master bedroom”, becomes command center for the entire household. The master bedroom, your bedroom becomes the hospital, business center, counseling room, time out room and theater all in one.

It is my goal to suggest that your bedroom become what it is really intended for.

Here are five suggestions/rules that you might try.

  1. Sleep and Sex.

Your bedroom should be used for only two things, sex and sleep.

You need more of both. Don’t you?

The more distractions you have in your bedroom means the less you have of either.

Yes, there are other things that are in the bedroom.

Closets and dressers are there. You do need to get dressed and primp for the day but that should be secondary to sleeping and intimacy.

My other rules will hopefully back it up.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

walkertherapy.org

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Posted by: frankjwalker | May 9, 2017

Rules in the Bedroom, Tomorrow!!

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Check out my YouTube channel

A Marriage Minute

Tomorrow  May 10th

for a series called

Rules in the Bedroom

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Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

walkertherapy.org

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

YouTube-Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Posted by: frankjwalker | May 9, 2017

De-clutter your life…

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Check out my past blog on July 11, 2016 about clutter in your life.

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

Posted by: frankjwalker | May 9, 2017

Successful Marriages. Shared faith.

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Success in Marriage

People that have success in marriage follow these guidelines and marital habits.

 

  • Shared religious beliefs.

    • Faith beliefs are about shared interests. You have to on the same page when it comes to your beliefs in heavenly things.
    • When you share the same beliefs, you have to walk together in them too.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: frankjwalker | May 8, 2017

In Your Marriage Connect, Connect, Connect…

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Connect, connect, connect.

There is no excuse for not staying in touch.

Mentally, physically and spiritually.

Take the time, put in the time and do the time to build and keep your marriage growing.

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: frankjwalker | May 5, 2017

In Marriage Perfect Doesn’t Exist

Perfect doesn't exist

 

Perfect doesn’t exist.

You are not, your spouse is not perfect.

So, get over your high expectations and love the one you’re with.

Really, I mean it.

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

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Posted by: frankjwalker | May 4, 2017

Success in Marriage. Adequate income.

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Success in Marriage

People that have success in marriage follow these guidelines and marital habits.

  • Adequate income.

    • Money, money, money.
    • Marriage is about shared plans and goals concerning jobs income and meeting needs.
    • You have to be on the same page as to what is needed to make your life a viable life.
    • Once you have agreed on what is necessary for you, then you need to have a long-term plan to meet that necessity. This is not pie in the sky dream stuff. This is the down to earth this is what we need and expect stuff.
    • Happiness is not necessarily a part of the income stuff. Striving for the next big house, car or vacation home won’t bring happiness. In fact, they may even hurt what true happiness is.
    • Have a plan for your finances and agree together on the plan.

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

 

 

Posted by: frankjwalker | May 3, 2017

Successful Marriage. Satisfying sex.

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Success in Marriage

People that have success in marriage follow these guidelines and marital habits.

 

  • Satisfying sex.

    • You can’t talk about marriage without talking about sex. But understand sex is more than well, sex.
    • It’s about a shared intimacy a body, mind and soul thing.
    • For sex to be truly satisfying it has to be a togetherness thing.
    • It’s not about me or you but us together in the most intimate thing to humans can share in.
    • Good sex is not just about the bedroom. It’s about the kissing, hugging, snuggling, handholding and just being together stuff.
    • Satisfying sex is about love and laughter and sharing yourself.

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

 

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