Posted by: frankjwalker | May 17, 2017

Rules in the Bedroom 4

rules in the bedroom 3

Five Rules for the Bedroom

Here are the rules I think you should keep in your “adult married” bedroom.

These are physical rules and they don’t deal with whatever happens between you and your spouse when you are in the bedroom. Maybe I will deal with that later.

Sometimes your bedroom, the “master bedroom”, becomes command center for the entire household. The master bedroom, your bedroom becomes the hospital, business center, counseling room, time out room and theater all in one.

It is my goal to suggest that your bedroom become what it is really intended for.

Here are five suggestions/rules that you might try.

Kids out of your bedroom, with some exceptions.

This is a bit controversial but I am going to say it. The kids should not be allowed in the master bedroom.

  1. You as a couple deserve the privacy of your own space.
  2. You don’t need the interruptions that might happen while you are intimately involved. It happens anyway.
  3. The bedroom should be yours and yours alone.
  4. Kids need to learn respect for your privacy and “coupleness”. There is family time and parent time.
  5. Kids need to be able to entertain and be alone by themselves. Within reason of course. Kids need to know they are safe and you are close by.
  6. The kids need to learn how to knock on the door and ask permission to come in. they need to know that you are there but won’t jump up on their command.
  7. Here’s the exceptions.

If a child is sick and in need of close monitoring. If your child has had a nightmare and is need of comforting. If there is a special occasion, breakfast in bed or the reading of a story. But these are special occasions and should be treated as just that.

 

***I know there is a whole school of thought out there about kids sleeping with their parents. But that sure gets in the way of rule number one sleep and sex.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

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