Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | March 19, 2017

Why Marriage Counseling Fails.

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Why Marriage Counseling Fails.


  1. Minds are made up.

Too many times the couple comes in with the end already set. They are somehow looking for a referee to confirm what they have already made up their minds on.

Tickets are already bought for the out of town train.

Husbands usually are the ones who come in with the idea that counseling is the way to prove that the marriage is over. They want to be able to say, “Well tried everything”.

But from the beginning the counseling was doomed to failure.

  1. There is no real honesty.

If you can’t be open to honest discussion, then counseling isn’t worth the effort.

Honesty means you’re willing to look at yourself and your contribution to the problems.

Your willing to peel off the band aid no matter how much it might hurt.

Your willing to dig deep and look at what really is going on in your relationship.

  1. One of the couple do not commit.

Ye, counseling can be done when one spouse doesn’t want to come. But couples counseling is about couples.

Counseling takes time and commitment to the time needed to solve problems.

  1. It’s expensive.

What price will you be willing to put on your marriage? You went out of your way when you got married. The ceremony was great and cost a lot. It was worth it. How much is the marriage worth now?

5. Time

The most important thing you have ever done in your life is to get married. Don’t tell me you don’t have the time.

There is always time for making things right.

  1. Not willing to give the needed time.

It’s about time again. It will not happen after one counseling session. It took a long time to get where you are. Give your relationship and counseling the time it needs for healing.


Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428


Frank’s books are available @


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