Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | February 19, 2017

Big Things are not Big Things

O14A0241The “Big Things” Aren’t That Big


So we finally got the kids out the door on Saturday morning to do the yard work. You would have thought we were trying to kill them. There was complaining, arguing and whining. We were such cruel taskmasters.  My wife decided to time our indentured servants to see how much time it took.

Eight minutes, it took just eight minutes for our son to mow the lawn.

They were done with edging and sweeping in less than an hour. It took twice as long for us to get the kids out the door as the job actually took.

 Sound familiar?

Isn’t that the way we treat most of the “Big Things” in our lives.  Most things really don’t take that long, the problem is our perception of the things that have to be done.  

 Author Richard Carlson’s book “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” addresses the problem.  

The key is realizing that everything is small stuff. We have just made it into “Big Stuff”.

 We all have to do some really mundane stuff in our daily lives.

The laundry, yard work, the dishes and even homework are, well pretty boring. But try this;  time yourself to see if it really takes as long as you have made yourself believe.

If it is taking you a long time you might be having trouble with the way you are going about getting things done.

 Here are some hints.

  • Don’t save the laundry all for one day, do a load several times during the week.

  • Wash the dishes after each meal, don’t let them pile up.

  • Break the bigger jobs into smaller chunks.

  • Put a timer on for the kids, you’d be surprised how much can be done in 15 minutes.

  • Hey, this is important, you’re a family so share the jobs and don’t do it alone.

The hardest part of these responsibilities is how we see them in our heads.

Those mountains are really mole hills and the big things aren’t really that big.


Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428


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