Keep Showing Up
The key to anything you do is to show up.
That means body, heart and soul. You know what I’m talking about. Your body id there but your mind and heart are a million miles away. Maybe not even a million miles but you just aren’t there.
I work out at the gym almost every day. The key for me is not the work out, but getting to the work out. So many things can get in the way of me getting through the gym door. Once I’m there I can do the work.
So many times I see people at their jobs, in meetings and see that far off look in their eyes. Maybe it’s boredom, and non-involvement. Work, meetings and most things would go so much better, faster and productively if everyone was on task and in the game. Whatever the game may be.
The whole thing is about showing up, being involved and staying on the task at hand.
As a therapist I see this idea of showing up is of utmost importance. Beside the fact that a big problem I have with clients is that they literally don’t show up. They make the appointment and never arrive.
But many times when a couple shows for a counseling appointment one of them or both of them aren’t all there. Their body is there but their mind or spirit is someplace else. they don’t want to be there, they don’t are anymore or they have just given up on the relationship.
It takes all I have to encourage, cajole and push them to show up and get into the game.
Even, if they have bought a ticket on the divorce train out of town.
They have to be engaged in the process of amicably dissolving the relationship. If there are children involved then there will always be an ongoing relationship with the ex-spouse. Those things have to be taken care of and both parties need to show up and be engaged.
You have a life. You have to live your life. You have to show up for your life.
So show up.
Frank J Walker LMFT
1617 Main Street
Cambria, Ca. 93428
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