Posted by: frankjwalker | May 25, 2016

Don’t Leave…

dont leave

Don’t Leave.

There is so much more to leaving than just walking out the door.

Many people leave a relationship long before they move away geographically.

Some stay in a relationship and aren’t really there at all.

The body is there but the mind, emotions and spirit have left the building.

1.You have gone away to your job, your hobby, your sport, your personal stuff  and you have left your marriage relationship.

Yes, it’s important to have a job and do good work. Yes, you can have hobbies and things you enjoy doing. However, you let those things be the way out of your relationship with your spouse. You have used these things to keep you away and apart from your marriage.

Like anything marriage takes an investment of time. Give your marriage the time it needs and deserves.

2. Even though you are home, you are somewhere else in your mind. Video games, movies, Facebook, texting  have been your exit from your responsibilities to spouse and family.

It is so easy to let the internet and all it has to offer be your way out of a significant relationship with your spouse.

Just like a drug, media can numb you to what is really important in your life.

Put it down, the phone, the mouse, the tablet, and the game control. I mean it put it down.

Face up to your responsibilities in your marriage.

Work it out, work through it. Make your relationship the priority it should always be.

3. The needs of your friends have been your escape from what should be of the greatest importance in your life, your family and mate.

You need to have friendships outside your marriage. Friends can be a big help in strengthening things in your relationship with your spouse.

But, many times the needs of friends can be the way out of doing the things that are important to keeping your marriage o track.

Hanging with the boys and getting together with the girlfriends is secondary to the needs of you and your spouse.

4.Your’e hardened your heart to the emotions and feelings that are primal to your relationship. Your body is there but you have left emotionally.

You have hardened your heart to all that was good in your marriage. Crack open the hard shell you have put around your love. See with the eyes of love.

5.There is God stuff in your marriage and you have left that too.

God is all about miracles and wonders. You haven’t allowed for the miraculous in your marriage and have walked out on the God stuff possibilities that could happen in your marriage.

Pray, seek God in and for your marriage.

Step back in to your relationship with your spouse.

Don’t leave.

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-115

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

 

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