Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | January 17, 2016

Make Yourself Happy

Make happiness


Make Yourself Happy.

  1. By giving.

A great way to feel good about you is to be a giver. Give your time, finances or energy to projects and programs that help others.

There is a great need just outside your front door. Do well to others and feel the rewards in meeting the needs of those less fortunate than you.


  1. Try connecting.

I am so sorry but you can’t do it by yourself. You need the help of others. I know people can be annoying. But understand you are people too. Sometimes you are annoying. But that’s what this life is all about, putting up with each other’s annoyances. People are there to laugh with you, cry with you and to hold you up when you are down.

Reach out to others. Create friendships. Be connected to a community. Be part of something bigger than you.


  1. Exercise.

Just taking a walk and moving around can make you happy. Want a real mood lifter? Begin and stick with an exercise program. Exercise releases feel good hormones in your body.

Finishing your exercise makes you feel tired but happy.


  1. Appreciating your circumstances.

This happiness thing is really fickle. So many things can contribute to happiness and can negate happiness. Much of what makes a person full of happiness is their perception of their circumstances in the present moment. The key is that we have control over our perception. We have real control over our own happiness.


  1. Trying something new.

Just the fact that we can change our environment can improve our happiness.  So get away from your circumstances. See new things and have new experiences. It doesn’t have to cost more or does not require a big effort on your part. Go to or from work in a different route. Go to a new restaurant. Try a different ethnic food. Change the furniture in your room. Newness brings happiness.


  1. Seek direction.

Talk to somebody. Maybe talk to your pastor, priest or even a professional counselor. Seek their advice. It helps to have someone from the outside give you advice. Don’t be afraid to talk to an advisor for direction.  You might be surprised about the insights you get toward your personal happiness.


  1. Be flexible.

In order to be happy you have to learn to move and to groove. The world is a constantly shifting place. Things are always in flux. You need to understand that and go with the flow. Be flexible in your opinions and your life style.

Accept that change is inevitable. In fact be part of the change.

A person, who has a stiff neck, just becomes a pain in the neck.


  1. Check your emotions.

Anger, jealousy, boredom, fear and even happiness are emotions that you have control over. Check your emotions in a rational, thoughtful way. Take control over what you have control over. If your emotions are out of control get the help you need to be the whole happy person you can be.


  1. Try acceptance.

Some things will never change and you have to accept that. You can still be happy when things don’t work out.

It’s going to rain. It’s going to be hot. Don’t be shocked when stuff doesn’t go your way. Because there is other people involved and they are not perfect. But neither are you.


  1. Search for meaning.

Know that you are on this planet for a purpose. Seek out your purpose. Nurture your strengths and abilities and always, always move forward. Don’t get stuck in the past, in your prejudices and especially your fears.

Seek out the meaning for your life and when you find it live it. The key in this search is that the search is the important part of all of this. So don’t stop the search. Your meaning changes as you grow and mature and gain understanding.



Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428


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