Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | June 18, 2015

Letting Go… #1

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  • Letting go means releasing your grasp on those things that in many ways are near and dear to you.


Here in lies the problem with stuff. It’s just “stuff” and except for the memories the stuff conjures up most of it is of very little value in the market place.

I understand getting rid of the stuff, sometimes feels like you’re losing the memory. Your mother loved you and that vase, the trinkets or that embroidery reminds you of her love for you.

It’s like you’re throwing away mom’s love.

So you hold on and store all the stuff that proved your mother’s love.

So the stuff piles up and the clutter expands. It’s not just mom’s stuff but all the other stuff that provides memories. Trophies, movie tickets, clothes, and it goes on and on.

But where are the memories really? They are in your mind and heart.

Those mementos have nothing to do with your thoughts and feelings.

The memories are always with you.

Here are some suggestions.


  • Write the memories down. Not a writer? Then record them as audio files on your computer.


  • Take pictures of the items.


  • If the items have historic values donate then to a museum or historic society.


  • Re-purpose the items. Make a quilt out of clothing items. Decorate a frame with old jewelry.


  • Make a video describing the items and their significance and file it on a hard drive.

The point is to let go of the stuff but hold on to the memories.

Free yourself from being the caretaker of other peoples stuff. Move on and let go.


Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428


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