Posted by: frankjwalker | February 25, 2017

Feel the wonder…

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Feel the Wonder

We all live in a pretty spectacular world.

We really do, you really do.

Whether you live in the city, country or suburbs the world outside your front door is pretty amazing.

All it takes is see things through different eyes.

Bored, defeated,depressed eyes don’t see the wonder.

You have to change things up if you want to see the true glory of it all.

Don’t let yourself be blind to the wonder of it all.

The line from the hymn Amazing Grace says it all.

“Amazing Grace how sweet the sound, that saved a retch like me. I once was lost but now I’m found, was blind but now I see”

Feel the wonder.

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-115

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

Posted by: frankjwalker | February 24, 2017

Love 22

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Day 22

Colossians 3:19

Husbands love your wives…

 

So Paul is telling the Colossian men to love their wives. Isn’t that the way it’s supposed to be?

That’s a no-brainer isn’t it, or is it? Let’s face it, men and women haven’t changed much since Paul’s time. A big chunk of marriages fail, 50%, 30%, it doesn’t matter.

Marriage is a gamble these days.

It comes down to the love that isn’t there in most marriages anymore. Why? Well there are a thousand reasons why. But the biggest reason of all is most people are selfish.

People aren’t willing to give the time, effort, and work that loving another requires. They may not say it but the bottom line is, “what is in it for me?”

Paul gives a command, love your wives.

Husbands, I don’t care how much you love your job or your big screen TV; love your wives first and always.

That’s the way it’s supposed to be; it’s a no-brainer. But husbands need to be reminded then and now, so do wives.

 

  1. What’s the marriage history in your family? Who has been married a long time?

  2. How have they succeeded where others have failed? Ask them. Learn from them.

  3. If there are a lot of divorces in the family tree, vow to stop that pattern in your own life.

  4. Renew the covenant you made to your spouse.

  5. Take the “D” (Divorce) word out of your vocabulary.

  6. If your marriage is in trouble seek help.

 

This is an excerpt from my book,

Love

A 30 Day Biblical Approach to Love

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com 

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: frankjwalker | February 23, 2017

Love 21

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Day 21

Ephesians 5:2

…walk in love…

 

Get out of the house and go for a walk.

Breath in the fresh air, okay, the air might not be fresh in your neighborhood but get out of that stuffy house. You’ve been closed up behind the doors of your house or office too long. There’s nothing good to watch on the tube anyway. Set the DVR and watch your favorite shows later.

There’s stuff going on outside.

As you walk through the neighborhoods, birds are singing, dogs are barking, and a neighbor or two might wave at you. Going for a walk fills you up a bit. The sun’s on your cheeks, the winds in your hair. Take a deep breath and sigh. You’re not going anywhere, you’re just out for walk, life’s good.

Love is like that, love is like a walk in the fresh air.

The world and its cares put us into a box. There is the job box, our cares box, our worries box, we have all these boxes and they keep us closed in. But love, ah’ love, it gets us out and about, and away from all of that.

There are people you love and people who love you. Revive that love, rekindle those feelings. Walk in your love.

 

  1. Don’t go all crazy and start an exercise program. Just go for a walk. See the world and the things that are going on around you.

  2. Take somebody along. Talk, joke, be yourself.

  3. Don’t let the weather get in the way. There is beauty in all God’s seasons. Remember Gene Kelly and “Singing in the rain”? Give it a try.

 

This is an excerpt from my book,

Love

A 30 Day Biblical Approach to Love 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: frankjwalker | February 22, 2017

Love 20

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Day 20

1 John 4:8

The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.

 

From the “get go” we need to understand that this whole ball of wax, the earth, and all that we have was done out of love, God’s love.

All that is happening is for and about God’s love for us. I know where does the bad stuff come into the equation?

The bad stuff, like mean people doing mean things. If you haven’t seen the incredible amount of meanness out there in the world then God blessed you. But for the rest of us we seem to be surrounded by a mean spirited world.

So what’s up with these mean people?

Again it all comes down to this love thing. Mean people may love their car, their house, even their family and spouse. But if they don’t have a love for creation and the one who created it they have no real love. “Mean love” is a love for self. This love becomes a “survival love” where only my and mine are important. Mean people are suspicious and ready to fight.

Christians on the other hand see God’s greater plan in this world.

They love God, trust in Him, and love the world created by Him. Christians are called to love everyone even the mean people. Christians become part of this God love plan because they know God and love God.

 

  1. Take a look around at the good in this world. Do it right now. God created this place and said it was good. Check the first chapters of the book of Genesis.

  2. Take a deep breath and appreciate the goodness that God created. It is out here.

  3. Understand that the bad stuff isn’t God stuff. The good stuff is the God stuff. Pay attention to that and only that. Feel better?

This is an excerpt from my book,

Love

A 30 Day Biblical Approach to Love

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

 Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: frankjwalker | February 21, 2017

Love 19

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Day 19

1 John 4:11

Beloved, if God so loved us, He also ought to love one another.

 

You remember the situation.

You were a kid and you had a fight and argument with a friend, foe, or family member. An adult teacher, parent, or neighbor said, shake hands, say you’re sorry, and make up. You shook hands but really didn’t mean it. You would get back at them, somehow. The adults were satisfied though and it was supposed to be all done and fixed.

You’re older now and things have really not changed.

Negative things still happen and you’re asked to apologize, shake hands, and say you’re sorry. Those little kid hassles are now big, adult hassles. You probably won’t punch someone out, but who knows.

The verse above says God loves and so should you.

Tough stuff to do in that childish mindset we still hold on to.

So what’s a person to do with that Crackpot in the cubical next to you?

What should we do about the cranky neighbor with the cats or the spouse that has gone cold?

Sorry but you “ought” to love them.

There isn’t any other answer, but to love them. Hey, that’s what God does for you. That’s at least a good starting point.

 

  1. Who are the people who really get on your nerves? Make a list.

  2. Figure out what it is that they do that really pushes your button. Is there a common pattern? How much of the problem is you? How much of the problem is really them?

  3. Can you think of a place, time or location that might alter your negative feelings? In other words what do you have control over that might change things.

  4. Maybe your attitude needs to change? Give love a chance.

 

This is an excerpt from my book,

Love

A 30 Day Biblical Approach to Love

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: frankjwalker | February 20, 2017

Love 18

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Day 18

1 John 5:7

By this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and love his commands.

 

Looking for Christian believers? Look for the lovers.

Christians are the ones who are hugging, kissing, and crying together. Christians are the “extra mile people”. They go out of their way to help or care for one another. Christians move out of that comfort zone of neutrality and non-involvement.

Now it almost sounds like Christians are robot, drones doing the commandments of God. But that is far from the truth.

Doing this God thing, following His rules and commands is all about peace and contentment. The commandments of God are there for our protection and safety. Within the safety of those rules we can live without fear and in true love with one another.

It is in this place of God’s commandments, that love can be nurtured and grow.

Outside of God’s commands is where the real trouble is.

You really don’t see too much hugging, kissing, and real joy outside of God’s love.

You really don’t.

 

  1. OK so you’re not a huggy, kissy kind of person. Get over it. Start small shake hands. But get in close to people.

  2. Sorry but you can’t do it alone. You have to surround yourself with people that care and understand you.

  3. Make the first steps by getting in touch with Christian brothers and sisters.

 

This is an excerpt from my book,

Love

A 30 Day Biblical Approach to Love

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com 

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

Posted by: frankjwalker | February 19, 2017

Big Things are not Big Things

O14A0241The “Big Things” Aren’t That Big

 

So we finally got the kids out the door on Saturday morning to do the yard work. You would have thought we were trying to kill them. There was complaining, arguing and whining. We were such cruel taskmasters.  My wife decided to time our indentured servants to see how much time it took.

Eight minutes, it took just eight minutes for our son to mow the lawn.

They were done with edging and sweeping in less than an hour. It took twice as long for us to get the kids out the door as the job actually took.

 Sound familiar?

Isn’t that the way we treat most of the “Big Things” in our lives.  Most things really don’t take that long, the problem is our perception of the things that have to be done.  

 Author Richard Carlson’s book “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” addresses the problem.  

The key is realizing that everything is small stuff. We have just made it into “Big Stuff”.

 We all have to do some really mundane stuff in our daily lives.

The laundry, yard work, the dishes and even homework are, well pretty boring. But try this;  time yourself to see if it really takes as long as you have made yourself believe.

If it is taking you a long time you might be having trouble with the way you are going about getting things done.

 Here are some hints.

  • Don’t save the laundry all for one day, do a load several times during the week.

  • Wash the dishes after each meal, don’t let them pile up.

  • Break the bigger jobs into smaller chunks.

  • Put a timer on for the kids, you’d be surprised how much can be done in 15 minutes.

  • Hey, this is important, you’re a family so share the jobs and don’t do it alone.

The hardest part of these responsibilities is how we see them in our heads.

Those mountains are really mole hills and the big things aren’t really that big.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

Posted by: frankjwalker | February 18, 2017

You are not alone…

You are not alone

 

You know you’re not alone.

 

You need to understand that you are not the only person in the world.

You are not in a box, not lost in the woods and you are not alone.

Yes, you are in a tough spot right now. But this is not the end and not the only thing that you are left with.

There are people that can help you, places where you can find help and there is hope.

You are unique, yet there are others that have had similar experiences and can guide you, push you, pull you and get you through the junk you are bogged down in.

Sometimes the stuff that brings you down is all about you view of things.

Others can give a new light on your circumstances   

You are not alone.

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-115

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

Posted by: frankjwalker | February 17, 2017

Love 17

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Day 17

1 John 3:11

For this is the message which you have heard from the beginning that we should love one another.

Herein lies the difference. What do you believe to be the purpose of mankind? One, the world’s scientific biological view or two, the faith based view of a God created world?

Science teaches that man evolved into the complicated organism he is today through continuous violent clashes in a fight for survival.

Man’s very existence involved chances, adaption, tenacity, and in the end a murderous hunger for resources and sustenance.

This blood bathed theory of evolution has little place for love as all bonds of human interaction are tied to survival of the human species.

God creation, on the other hand celebrates a completely different view of mankind and its purpose on this planet.

In a God creation we are called to love one another and in turn love the one who created us. Our whole existence on earth is based on the love of the creator for this creation.

Yes, from almost the beginning of this God creation there has been bloodshed, wars, and violence. However, always in this God based vision of mankind is the hope of a return to the beginning the love for and of creation.

So there are the differences and the choices. God purposed or man proposed. Your choice.

This is an excerpt from my book,

Love

A 30 Day Biblical Approach to Love

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: frankjwalker | February 16, 2017

Love 16

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Day 16

Romans 13:10

…love is the fulfillment of the law.

 

Our first reaction to a law is to fight it. “No one is going to make me wear a seat belt.” “Nobody is going to tell me what I can say or do.”

I’m sorry but in our democratic nation laws are put in place for the perceived common good. Notice I said perceived, because some laws across the land are a bit strange. Laws are for our safety, to maintain civility in the land, and frankly to help us get along. Yes, laws are broken all the time. How many of you drive 55 miles per hour when the signs say too?

Being a Christian comes with a set of laws.

Do the 10 commandments ring a bell? The ultimate purpose of these laws is love. Love for God’s people and love in return to the law giver. God’s laws are in place for our safety and to maintain order in His kingdom. The ultimate results of following God’s law and being under His protection through His laws is our love for the law giver. In case you haven’t figured it out, God is the giver of the laws. You love God, right? God loves us so much that He doesn’t allow for us to be lawless.

Through the discipline imposed by the God’s laws we fulfill God’s plan for us.

Yes, there is reason and a plan behind the laws of God. The fulfillment of the laws of God is our love for Him and His love for us. The laws provide a way to come closer to God and His love. We may fight back at the law and drive over the posted speed limit.

However, in the end the law is there because God loves us. We in turn will come to love Him by following His laws.

  1. So what are the laws you like the least? What are those laws basic purpose?

  2. What laws would you change? What laws would you add? Why?

  3. What laws do you love? Why?

  4. If we love the law giver, God. How can we learn to love the laws?

 

This is an excerpt from my book,

Love

A 30 Day Biblical Approach to Love

 Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

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