Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | May 23, 2018

Grow old, grow better

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Grow older, grow better.

I am sorry, but you are getting older. You need to face that fact and if you want your old age to be a little easier you need to take some preventative actions.

Here are a few recommendations from a guy who is getting older too.

  • Have close friends.

I am not talking Facebook friends.

I am talking real, in the flesh people that you can interact with face to face.

You need friends to support you, challenge you and be there for you.

You also need to be a friend.

  • Stay positive.

You can despite the years, the aches and pains and the state of the world be a positive person. You really can, if you put your mind to it.

This is an amazing, beautiful world and there is much to be grateful for. Embrace the good in the world, people and every new day.

Negativity affects your body and mind. Being positive can change you and your spirit. Be positive.

Think positive. Stay positive.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all of his posts at walkertherapy.wordpress.com

and check his YouTube channel “A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | May 22, 2018

Grow old, grow better

grow old grow better2

Grow older, grow better.

I am sorry, but you are getting older. You need to face that fact and if you want your old age to be a little easier you need to take some preventative actions.

Here are a few recommendations from a guy who is getting older too.

  • Eat good food.

You know you could lose a few pounds.

Make healthy eating a part of your lifestyle.

Losing weight goes a long way toward making you feel and stay healthy.

  • Be a student of life.

This life you are living is a lifelong process and never stops.

You don’t know it all yet and learning never ends.

Embrace the wonders of this world and continue to learn and grow.

Continue to read, study and investigate the things that going on in your world.

Be a constant student of life.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all of his posts at walkertherapy.wordpress.com

and check his YouTube channel “A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | May 21, 2018

Grow old, grow better

grow old grow better

Grow older, grow better.

I am sorry, but you are getting older. You need to face that fact and if you want your old age to be a little easier you need to take some preventative actions.

Here are a few recommendations from a guy who is getting older too.

  • Think young.

There are a lot of folks out there that are older than you, so you are young. At least younger than they are. Think young and be young.

Too many older folks sit around complain about the world and talk about there aches and pains.

Don’t be one of those.

There is an ever changing world out there and you need to be part of it.

OK, you can’t hide your gray hair but understand age is just a number and youth happens between your ears.

Think young and be young.

  • Avoid a sedentary lifestyle.

Get off the couch and get out there.

Join a group.

Volunteer in your community.

Be active. It is good for your, mind body and spirit.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all of his posts at walkertherapy.wordpress.com

and check his YouTube channel “A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | May 18, 2018

Grow old, grow better

grow old grow better2

Grow older, grow better.

I am sorry, but you are getting older. You need to face that fact and if you want your old age to be a little easier you need to take some preventative actions.

Here are a few recommendations from a guy who is getting older too.

  • Don’t smoke

I don’t need to say more about this. Don’t start and quit if you are.

  • Don’t do hard drugs or drink too much.

Again, I don’t need to say much more about this.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all of his posts at walkertherapy.wordpress.com

and check his YouTube channel “A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | May 17, 2018

Grow Old, grow better

grow old grow better

Grow older, grow better.

I am sorry, but you are getting older. You need to face that fact and if you want your old age to be a little easier you need to take some preventative actions.

Here are a few recommendations from a guy who is getting older too.

  • Manage stress in your life.

You knew this one already. Yes, your life and my life are stressful. The world isn’t getting any less stressful either. So, what do you do?

There is a list below. But here is the thing you need to do. You need to do things to reduce your stress.

Meditate, pray, relax and do the things that put you into a calm state.

Turn off the T.V., reduce media intrusions in your life and relax.

  • Exercise

I push exercise a lot. You need to keep that body of yours in motion. Stretch, walk and get out there and “move what you got”.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all of his posts at walkertherapy.wordpress.com

and check his YouTube channel “A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | May 16, 2018

Beat Stress

beat stress

Handling stress.

I talk a lot about stress and dealing with the hassles all of encounter in our daily lives.

Stress is probably the number one thing that brings folks in to therapy. Kids, jobs and marital stress are all part of this life we live. So here are a few hints on dealing with everyday stressors.

Please note that if the stress you are dealing with is overwhelming you may need and should seek help. The simple act of talking it out will help reduce the stress in your life.

 

  1. Manage your time.

Much of dealing with stress is a time issue.

Do the important stuff first.

If you have time do the things that waste time. That includes sitting in front of the tube or the device checking for likes.

Get a handle on you time and that can relieve some of the stress.

You would be surprised at how much time is wasted on things that are not important to your priorities.

Also you would be surprised at how little time is needed to do what needs to be done.

  1. Do what you love.

Find out what you really like and seek that out.

A lot of folks really don’t know what floats their boat. Find something that excites you and gives you purpose.

Only you know what that is.

Try things out and find your niche.

Taking naps, laying around the house and eating snacks can be fun for awhile but that is not a productive way of life and can become a cycle for depression.

3. Decompress.

Do something for yourself.

You have to have some time to relax and charge you batteries. Sometimes you have to be a little selfish. All of us need a little me time. Just a little.

You need to take a breather, walk away for a bit. You can’t keep giving without refilling your tank. So, take some time for you.

You live in a busy world with all kinds of demands on your time and energy. Be proactive in seeking relief from the stress you experience in your life.

Far too many negative things have happened to people that have become overwhelmed with the stress of living. 

 **This is part two, be sure to check out part one .

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all of his posts at walkertherapy.wordpress.com

and check his YouTube channel “A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | May 15, 2018

Handling Stress

beat stress

Handling stress.

I talk a lot about stress and dealing with the hassles all of encounter in our daily lives.

Stress is probably the number one thing that brings folks in to therapy. Kids, jobs and marital stress are all part of this life we live. So here are a few hints on dealing with everyday stressors.

Please note that if the stress you are dealing with is overwhelming you may need and should seek help. The simple act of talking it out will help reduce the stress in your life.

  1. Find the source of the stress.

The simple act of identifying where the stress is will help you get a hold on it.

Knowing the source helps you know how to deal with it. It could be person, place or thing.

Once you know the source you can make plans to deal with it.

  1. Define priorities.

What are the important things in your life?

What can you give up and walk away from?

Do what is important and don’t do the other stuff. All of our time is spent on things that in the end don’t matter.

That may mean that you must learn how to say no.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all of his posts at walkertherapy.wordpress.com

and check his YouTube channel “A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | May 14, 2018

So what is counseling???

So what is counseling?

 

is Counseling.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | May 11, 2018

Beat worry, anxiety, depression and sadness.

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Overcoming worry, depression and sadness

Here are a few hints on how to deal with your anxiety and depression.

Give them a try and see if they work for you.

*Understand that if your depression lasts for an extended time you may need to get help from a professional.

  • Breathe

Most of us aren’t breathing the right way.

We take shallow breathes and don’t really fill our lungs to capacity. Take some time throughout the day and stand up straight and breath in deeply.

Fill your lungs slowly with air and exhale slowly. Do that two or three times to calm yourself and get the oxygen moving through your body.

Learn to breathe to relieve stress in your body.

  • Do something/anything.

Action is better than inaction.

Do something proactive to get yourself out of your slump.

Worry, depression and anxiety have a way of pulling us down.

When we are down we tend to stay there, and the cycle continues.

Do something to change the pattern.

  • Do something with your hands.

Draw, paint, build, garden, write, knit, crochet or play a musical instrument.

Do something that takes you away from what’s going on in your head.

Just the act of creating can pull you out of the slump you are in.

Nobody must know. Nobody has to judge you. Do it for the joy of the making, creating, and just doing.

** Did you miss part of this series. Check out the whole series.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | May 10, 2018

Beat depression, anxiety, sadness and worry.

beat anxiety

Overcoming worry, depression and sadness.

Here are a few hints on how to deal with your anxiety and depression.

Give them a try and see if they work for you.

*Understand that if your depression lasts for an extended time you may need to get help from a professional.

  • Just do it.

Grit your teeth, set your jaw and just to what you have to do.

I know that it seems overwhelming and it will never end.

But there are things that just have to get done and you are the one who has to do them.

Take the steps despite how you feel.

Celebrate that despite how you feel you are doing what need to be done.

Fake it till you make it really works. Just do it.

  • Recognize the signs.

There are signs that you are headed toward a downer.

You know the signs and you can do something to ward off the worry and sadness.

Take positive steps before it happens.

Learn to say no. Stay away from those folks that always bring you down. Don’t do the things that give you those bad feelings.

Understand yourself and the triggers that bring you down and don’t do them.

  • Have a health routine.

You are a whole being.

You have a body, mind and spirit.

Treat all those parts of you with respect and nourish your whole being.

Take care of yourself physically and mentally.

That means eating right and doing the right things for your body. Eat healthy foods, exercise, keep hydrated and get enough sleep.

Take care of yourself.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

 

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