Posted by: frankjwalker | April 23, 2017

Diet the Original Sin

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Diet the Original Sin

I think the tree of forbidden fruit in the Garden of Eden was a chocolate tree or a French fry tree or a pizza tree.

I know it sounds funny but it is the same issue/problem we as good Christians are facing today in our own management of food and eating in the way God wants.

God told Adam and Eve here is a world of good stuff to eat. Good stuff for your mind and body. “But you can’t eat the bad stuff, the stuff from these two trees”.

God has given us the same world and the same choice. There is a world of good stuff out there for us to eat except from the See’s candy tree or whatever is your forbidden fruit. Some of us even have a forest of forbidden fruits. All of us have the same decision that Adam and Eve had to make. We have to not eat of the forbidden fruit. Whatever the forbidden fruit may be in your life.

We live in a Garden of Eden with all things available to us but not all things worthwhile.

So, the sin is that we think we know better, better even than God.

So, we eat what God doesn’t want us to and then hide from God when He comes around. We cover ourselves not with grape leaves but stretchy pants and baggy clothes.

We hope God doesn’t notice what we really look like when we are naked and ashamed.

But here is the great difference for us. We have a second chance, a third, a fourth and beyond chance. We will not be kicked out of the Garden of Eden.

But the choice is the same we can’t eat the forbidden fruit.

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

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Posted by: frankjwalker | April 22, 2017

Advice for Guys…

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Advice for husbands:

Listen.

I have been married 43 years and I still am learning to love and understand my wife.

Here’s some practical advice you can use from a guy that has been at this marriage stuff for awhile.

  1. Listen, really listen.

I mean this. Listening is the key to good communication. Don’t fake it. For your sake don’t look at your watch or your cell phone. If the phone rings don’t answer it. Don’t get all glassy eyed and zone out. She needs to know you care and really want to hear the things that are on her mind.

  1. Keep listening.

Don’t give up and walk away. Don’t think about the game or anything else for that matter. Don’t interrupt. I’ll say it again, don’t interrupt. Stay with her it will be worth it.

  1. Listen and don’t try to fix it.

This is the number one mistake guys make. Guys want solutions. They want to get down to business and solve a problem. Yes I know that’s what we do but don’t fix it in this situation. She doesn’t want it fixed she wants you to listen.

  1. Show you’re listening by asking insightful questions.

You’re listening so prove it to your wife by asking questions. Your questions should help clarify and help you focus her story. Ask her to tell you more or explain further.

  1. Show your listening by repeating in your own words what you heard.

She needs to know your hearing what she is saying. So repeat what you have heard her say. Use your own words but don’t interpret or add anything. Lean forward in your chair. Look into her eyes. Show your listening with your body language.

  1. Later on ask how things are going with what your wife talked about.

Ask your wife about what she talked about some time later. Let her know you remembered your conversation and cared. If you have a solution and a way to fix her situation this could be the time to talk about it. But remember she just wanted you to hear her so fixing it might not be necessary.

 

Understand these 6 things are totally against the grain for guys and sometimes are hard to do and remember.

Guys usually act or react.

That’s great on the job or hunting lions but it is not what your lady needs. Women talk it out and work it through with words. Help your wife work through her stuff by listening.

But doing these things will go a long way in developing understanding and harmony in your marriage.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

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Posted by: frankjwalker | April 21, 2017

You and Me

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You and Me

In marriage it is always about the you and me.

Together you and me makes a “we” and that is a good thing, that’s a fantastic thing.

More things get done with you and me than “Me” or just “You” could have ever done.

That’s because We, you and me are a team.

You and me can take on the world because we are a “We”.

You make me a better me.

I make you a better you.

I can’t be a me without a you.

You and me make a great you and me.

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-115

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

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Posted by: frankjwalker | April 20, 2017

Success in Marriage. Compromise.

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Success in Marriage

People that have success in marriage follow these guidelines and marital habits.

Compromise

 

    • What restaurant to eat at, what TV show to watch is all about making compromises.
    • Learn that quickly in your marriage and refresh the idea of compromise often.
    • There are no winners or losers in a relationship.
    • Be flexible and amiable to changes in views and directions.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

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Posted by: frankjwalker | April 19, 2017

Success in Marriage. Freedom…

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Success in Marriage

People that have success in marriage follow these guidelines and marital habits.

  • Value freedom over control.

    • There should be great freedom within the boundaries of your marriage.
    • You two get to decide the boundaries. That’s your choice and nobody else’s.
    • Marriage is never meant to be a cage or a leash.

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

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Posted by: frankjwalker | April 18, 2017

It’s About We…

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Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

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Posted by: frankjwalker | April 17, 2017

Marriage Resources

 

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Marriage Resources:

Here is a list of resources that I recommend to the couples that come to me for counseling.

The key here is positive websites and books that support marriage.

There are far too many sites and commentaries that bash marriage and put down those of us that are married.

Add these sites to your online reading.

Surround yourself with marriage positive influences and mentors.

Marriage Bogs and Websites:

  •  Crosswalk

http://www.crosswalk.com

Crosswalk is a solid resource for Christians wanting to know the latest in Christian news, the best in spiritual guidance and resources for church leadership.

There are a variety of outstanding articles and podcasts written by today’s contemporary church leaders and thinkers.

  • Growthtrac

http://www.growthtrac.com

Jim and Shari Mueller provide a wealth of marriage and family advice.

From the Growthtrac site:

“Our world cannot settle simply for “good” marriages. Marriages can and must grow into great marriages.

With the right support, strength, and resources, every marriage can become the exhilarating, rich union God intended. Those marriages can change the world”.

That’s the passion that these two have to offer you”.

  • Focus on the Family

http://www.focusonthefamily.com

Dr. James Dobson has been a long time veteran in promoting Christian principles and values in Marriage.

Check the depth of subjects covered at this site and in their archives.

Dobson and his staff have brought together some of the finest work in practical marriage and family advice and counsel.

This site is a definitive first line resource for family valued information and support.

  • Family Dynamics Institute

http://www.familydynamics.net

Family Dynamics Institute promotes positive marriage and family resources through speakers, workshops, courses and online resources.

Check out their large library of resources.

  • Family Life

http://www.familylife.com

Family Life is an extensive marriage and family resource. Radio programs, book publishing, online classes and workshops are just a few of the media choices on the site.

There is a wealth of information available on their site from pre-marital counseling, family concerns and support and information for every phase a marriage and family might encounter.

Family Life is a go to center for solid Christian guidance and is a highly recommended source of information.

  • Simple Marriage

http://www.simplemarriage.net

Dr. Cory Allen author of:

Buck Naked Marriage

A Simple Marriage

I can’t endorse Dr. Cory enough. I listen to his webcast Sexy Marriage Radio (listed below) and follow his blog religiously.

Dr. Cory Allan gives a fresh and honest view of marriage with a Christian perspective.

  • Sexy Marriage Radio

http://www.sexymarriageradio.com

Don’t let the title of this webcast throw you. Dr. Allan’s believes that our marriages need to be sexy to be fulfilling and intimacy in marriage combats the negative stereotypes that the world gives lifelong marriage.

The shows are co-hosted by Shannon Etheridge an award winning author and marriage intimacy advocate.

Cory and Shannon challenge married couples to bring integrity and joy to their married lives.

“Heat Up Your Marriage Intimacy with Straight Talk & Real Answers for Great Married Sex Now”.

  • Hot, Holy and Humorous

“Sex and Marriage by God’s Design”

http://hotholyhumorous.com/

J. Parker is a great writer, with a wealth of insight into the world of sacred marriage and intimacy issues.

She is not afraid to share openly about Christian married sex. Her frankness sometimes makes me blush.

But her frank and practical commentaries are important in this sex crazy world we live in.

She has stated that within the sacred bonds of marriage is your personal amusement park.

Follow her weekly blog and become inspired to reignite your marriage.

Books:

Here are a few of the books I recommend to couples interested in deepening their marriage relationship.

All of them have good solid advice for couples and well worth your time.

  • Read any of these books together with your spouse.

  • Use them as a guide in the couple’s ministry at your church.

  • Share them with couples you know who need to be uplifted in their marriage.

Find them on line or at your favorite Christian book store

Sacred Marriage– Gary Thomas

Hidden Keys of Loving, Lasting Marriage– Gary Smalley

Love is a Decision– Gary Smalley

***The Five Love Languages– Gary Chapman, Highly Recommended

Turn Up the Heat: A Couples Guide to Intimacy– Dr. Kevin Lehman

Sex Begins in the Kitchen– Dr. Kevin Lehman

Crazy Good Sex-Les and Lesley Parrot

Sex Savvy- J. Parker

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: frankjwalker | April 16, 2017

Happy Easter

He is risen

 

He is not here, but He has risen…

 Luke 24:6

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

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Frank’s books are available @

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Posted by: frankjwalker | April 15, 2017

God’s Will

 

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Knowing God’s Will

People seem to always be seeking God’s Will in their lives.

Here are three ways you can help determine what God wants for your life. Of course a burning bush or an army of angels works too.

1.God’s Word

Seek God’s guidance in His word. Believers can find every answer they need in the Bible. We have to believe that and stand on that.

If what you are seeking fits God’s plans for his followers then you can keep moving on in that direction.

2. Wise Counsel

Proverbs 15: 22 …without counsel plans are frustrated. But with many counselors they succeed…

If you have questions and need advice seek the wisdom of God’s people. The church is full of people that are living for God and open to providing prayerful guidance, seek them out. Don’t get your advice from the T.V. or some supermarket tabloid. Find fellow believers that you trust and have a heart for God’s kingdom.

3. Circumstance

Your life is filled with circumstances that you seemingly have no control over. But guess what God’s in control of everything. The place you live, your parents, your talents, desires and wants God had His hand in all your life. God put all these circumstances in your life to mold and make you into the person He wants and needs you to be.

I know it might be hard to see but look around at the things God has placed in your life and see His guidance in them.

Good stuff or bad stuff it is all God stuff if you truly have faith in Him.

God wants the best for you. His answers are readily available in His word, His people and the world He has placed you in. Seek them out today.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

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Posted by: frankjwalker | April 14, 2017

Good Friday

Good Friday

 

 

Now from the sixth hour darkness fell upon all the land until the ninth hour.

 Matthew 27:45

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-1155

fjwalker.walker@gmail.com

Frank’s books are available @

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