Posted by: frankjwalker | October 28, 2016

You already are Beautiful …



You already are.

We all have been sold on the idea that some “thing” will make us beautiful.

We have this false belief that beauty is something outside of us.

Girls have it the worst, but guys have bought in to it too.

Some piece of clothing, a piece of jewelry or some thing ( you name it) is all that’s needed to be beautiful.

The latest, greatest, newest is the best.

Beauty has always come from within.

Don’t believe the hype. Don’t believe what someone tells you, you should be.

Be the beauty that you already are.


Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428


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Posted by: frankjwalker | October 26, 2016



The Holidays are coming.

The craziness is coming with it.

Take some time to breathe.

I mean really breathe.

  • Sit up straight.

  • Breathe in through your nose.

  • Take a nice slow deep breath.

  • Hold it a few seconds.

  • Now slowly exhale through your mouth.

    Do that as often as you need it this holiday season. Try to relax and have a holiday during this holiday season.


Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428


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Posted by: frankjwalker | October 25, 2016

10 Ways to Have Love that lasts…

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A Love That Lasts:

  1. Requires Work. 

    Married folks have to realize that this thing called love just doesn’t happen. It requires some work and nurturing.

    Love needs commitment and is in it for the long hall.There is no escape hatch or no get out of jail card in the game of love.

    Like a flower garden your love has to be tended. Weeds have to be pulled and a little fertilizer has to be added.

    Love can be and is beautiful but it can be messy too.You have to be willing to get your hands dirty. You have to be willing to put in the work needed to keep your love growing.

  2. Is a Daily Decision.

    Everyday is not going to be sunshine and rainbows in your marriage.

    Sometimes it is all about just making it through the day. But it’s those daily decisions that make a marriage last.

    Decide today to love today.The nest day too.

  3. Understands Growth and Change.

    Love matures and grows throughout the marriage seasons.

    The honeymoon was great. But it can’t always be a honeymoon.

    Like fine wine a marriage can and should get better with age.

    You are not the same person you were in Junior High. You will and should change as you grow and learn.

    That’s what’s exciting about marriage you grow and change for the better together.

    Here is something that is important about love and loving. Love that last also expects and encourages change.

  4. Knows that people are not perfect.

    Nobody’s perfect. Mistakes will be made.

    The dinner might get burned, the trash might not get taken out and things will be said in the heat of the moment that weren’t meant to be said.

    But your love overcomes all the bad stuff and your love covers your flaws and your spouse’s imperfections.

    Love forgives, learns from mistakes and moves on.

  5. Holds up.

    Love holds up and love doesn’t hold down.

    You are a team and it’s all about the team. Wear your team colors and cheer for your team. When the team is down pick them up again.

    Love holds on, holds up and holds out.

  6. Is Selfless.

    Love is all about the we and the us.

    “What’s in it for me?”, should never be an expectation or desire in a marriage.

    Love gives without expectations and perceived rewards.

    Love is all about the two becoming one. The Genesis stuff.

  7. Has Boundaries. 

    You need to maintain friendships and relationships outside the your marriage. These relationships can enhance and benefit  you and your marriage.

    However, you have to maintain boundaries when it comes to intrusions that come with outside relationships.

    Protect your marriage from the things and people who can pull you apart.

    Set some boundaries to protect you.

  8. Is skin and bones, sweat and tears,  and hugs and kisses.

    Love is all about real life, love is not a fantasy.Love can be and is fantastic.

    It is about to people trying to get along when times are tough.

    But love has to be based in the reality that stuff happens and there are going to be bumps in the road.

    Know the reality of living and loving together.

  9. Is Healing.

    Love is about being in unison and harmony together. You may be the opposite of the person you married but that’s what makes you work together.

    Your strengths work in conjunction with your spouses strengths.

    Your love brought you two together to scratch each others itches, to kiss each others boo boos and patch each other up when you fall.

    Your love is the healing balm that makes life together worthwhile.

  10. Is about Head, Heart and Spirit.

    Love is about Balance.

    Love can be emotions and feelings. Your love can be all warm fuzzies and wonderment.

    Love can also be practical down to earth stuff. Love can also be heavenly and out of this world fantastic stuff.

    Love, your love is about good and bad, happy and sad.

    Live your love in balance,head, heart and spirit.

    Embrace it all.

    Above all the greatest is love. (Cor. 13)



Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428


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Posted by: frankjwalker | October 21, 2016

Open the Door

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Open the Door.

OK, so you don’t know what’s behind the door or what’s outside the door.

You wont know unless you open the door.

Good bad or indifferent you won’t know what’s behind the door.

So open the door.

Yes, there could be monsters behind that door. Hey, there could be a whole world of Munchkins and the Wizard of Oz too.

You never know unless you open the door.

Too many people never make the choice to open the door.

Fear, uncertainty, or down right laziness has stalled too many peoples lives to go through the door.

Understand  this. There will be more doors to be opened.

The doors come with different names. It could high school, college, marriage, parenthood or a new job.

Each door opens up to a whole new world.

Know this. You have to open the door to get to those new places.

You can’t stand behind the door.

So again, grab the handle and open the door.


Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428


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Posted by: frankjwalker | October 19, 2016


October eves


Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428


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Posted by: frankjwalker | October 18, 2016

The Best Things…



The best things are never things.

Life is all about people and places and rarely about things.

Things cover you, get you there and provide some bling.

However, things really don’t give anything back in return except the fleeting emotions of new and different. The feelings rarely last and often depress when the “new” wares off.

Places are nice but only when you can share them with people.

Even when you want to be by yourself and all alone it is so much better to be able to relate being alone to being with others.

But understand it’s people who acknowledge you, lift you and give you meaning and purpose. 

You could go to the most beautiful place in the world but until you share that experience with others it’s unfulfilling. We want to tell others and share the experiences of place.

Talking about, writing about and sharing pictures of the places you’ve been is a big part of the experience of place.

It’s people that give legitimacy to the experience of place.

Things are a cool way of getting you to people or places.

But things are just that things. 

Invest in people and experiences with people not things.


Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428


I have written several books that might help. Please take a look at the site below. You can preview the books and purchase if you like them.

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Posted by: frankjwalker | October 17, 2016

World Day of Listening

A group of Listeners from around the world are planning to hold a World Day of Listening on October 21st, 2016. We are open to welcoming any other individuals and groups who would like to join an event whose sole aim is to listen to people about their experience of the current world situation and of themselves living in this world. We are non-partisan and non-promotional. Our only aim is to provide the healing and forward-moving experience that happens when one person listens openly, without agenda, to another, allowing social change to move through each person. This is a gentle model of social subversion and activism. Though many of those involved are therapists and facilitators, it is not primarily a mental health or therapy event. Anyone with listening skills (trainings can be offered in many locations) can participate, activists, counsellors, academics, facilitators, pastoral workers, group workers, youth workers, active listeners, NVC people, mindfulness practitioners, Focusing people, coaches, social change persons…. See the Facebook group below for more information.

Guidelines (English, Portuguese, Italian, German and Spanish so far) are uploaded into ‘Files’ just under the group photo above… Please feel free to join us from around the world …


Posted by: frankjwalker | October 14, 2016

Have it your way…

your way..

What if you could really have it your way?


If I were the president, if I were the NFL Commissioner, if I was the king of the world then….


We all had those dreams as kids, ” If only…”.

But your a big kid now and guess what you are not the king of the world.

However, you do have power and influence right where you are.

Your little kingdom, no matter how small it may be is under your control.

So take control. Be the ruler of your world and do what needs to be done.

Take charge and get a handle on things.

If your kingdom is your bedroom, then make it the best bedroom you can within your means.

You have much more control over things than you think you have.

Figure out what is under your influence and take charge of those things.

With power comes responsibility.

Be responsible and show responsibility for your world.

There are a lot of things that you could have your way.

There is a lot that comes with having things your way including letting others have their way too.

Know when to give and to take. Learn to negotiate in your kingdom.

Know what responsibilities come with power you have been given.


Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428


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Posted by: frankjwalker | October 12, 2016

You Don’t need More Space…

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You Need Less Stuff

I have discovered that stuff can smother you and cause you to lose perspective on the things that are really important in life.

Of course, this revelation was prompted by our move into a tiny home. We moved a year or so ago from a 4 bedroom home into a 720 square foot tiny home.

Stuff had to go and choices had to be made.

We had to decide what was really important and what was not worth holding on to.

Having less stuff has freed us to do more and worry less.

Is stuff overwhelming you?

Here are some ideas:

Take a look at all the stuff you have.

What is really important?

What is just, stuff that’s getting in the way? You have to store it, maintain it and clean it.

Is it worthwhile? If it isn’t get rid of it.

More space is not the answer.

Less stuff is the answer.


Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428


I don’t want you to buy more stuff. But I do have several books that I have written that might help. Please preview them at the site below.

Thank you.

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Posted by: frankjwalker | October 11, 2016

Make Yourself Happy

Make yourself happy


Make Yourself Happy

You are in charge of your happiness.

You cannot depend on others to make you happy.

Happiness is a choice.

You have within yourself,  the power to choose to be happy.

Most people are having their own troubles with being happy. How can you expect someone else to bring you happiness?

This happiness thing isn’t all it’s cracked to be either. So much depends on being happy that it can’t happen all the time or even some of the time.

Conditions need to be just right to bring on happiness.

Most of the time things just don’t line up for happiness.

To top it off if you don’t have the right attitude and are not open to happy moments you might never be “Happy”.

  • So…

  • Examine yourself and figure out what really makes for happiness in your life.

  • Then look out for those things that bring about happiness in your life.

  • Understand that you can’t be happy all the time.

  • Make room for happy circumstances.

  • Chose to be happy. 



Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428


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