Posted by: frankjwalker | November 17, 2017

One Purpose- Philippians 2

Philippians 2 and a Marriage Plan.

Paul in his letter to the Philippians writes about what we should be doing and thinking about as Christians. Married couples can learn much from the list Paul provides and should apply them to their spouse and marriage relationship.

 

  • One purpose

Your purpose should have been stated in your vows to each other at your wedding.

Every couple has made a public declaration of their purpose.

You followed a script or designed your vows in your own words.

But that marriage declaration should be the foundation for who you are and where you are going.

Review your vows,

renew your vows and

live your vows.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 16, 2017

United- Philippians 2

Philippians 2 and a Marriage Plan.

Paul in his letter to the Philippians writes about what we should be doing and thinking about as Christians. Married couples can learn much from the list Paul provides and should apply them to their spouse and marriage relationship.

 

  • United

I have already discussed being on the same team.

There are individuals on a team but it’s the team that wins or loses.

It’s the team together that gets things done.

Teams lift up, hold up and pick up their team mates.

Your “marriage team” should always be united in purpose and meaning.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 15, 2017

Simplify The Holidays

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Simple Holidays

The Holiday bandwagon is already upon us. If you have done any shopping you know that Christmas is here in the minds of merchants. So before you are steamrolled by all the hype, stop. Tell your children right now that Santa has been given furlough days and things are going to be pretty lean at the North Pole this year.

Don’t go into debt for the birth of Jesus this year.

Even if you were planning to give frankincense, myrrh and gold as gifts to the kids this year, be a wise man. There is much more to the“season of giving” than the stuff TV is tempting us with.

Cut back, give fewer things.

What happened to the gifts you gave last year? Does your family even remember last years in demand presents? Plan time together and develop traditions that go beyond giving family members stuff.

God gave us the greatest gift of all, our lives and He topped that off with the gift of His son Jesus. That is real family time with God as we are counted as his children. That should be the goal this Holiday season, family time. Give the gift of your time. Make memories that will last forever, and go far beyond the video game or clothes that go out of style and break.

So plan now to simplify the Holidays.

Warn you family in advance that there will be fewer gifts under the tree. Tell them why and don’t give in to the hype or whining. Plan to fill the days ahead with good cheer. The family time you spend together can be unwrapped over and over again in the form of fond memories for years to come.

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

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Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 14, 2017

Same Love- Philippians 2

Philippians 2 and a Marriage Plan.

Paul in his letter to the Philippians writes about what we should be doing and thinking about as Christians. Married couples can learn much from the list Paul provides and should apply them to their spouse and marriage relationship.

 

  • Same love.

He might love Chinese food, you might love Mexican food, but that is not the kind of love I’m talking about.

You both have got to love each other and the marriage you share together.

Now sometimes you are not on the same page with your love and sometimes you might love each other a little less.

But you love the “us” of your relationship and your willing to love enough for the both of you until you are in it again wholly and together.

Love is work, sometimes.

Love means giving and not taking.

Love means forgiving and forgetting.

Love means you’re in it for the “forever” and you won’t give up on each other.

It’s all about the “One Love” Bob Marley sang about. So “Get together and feel all right”.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

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Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 13, 2017

The only prayer…

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 13, 2017

Beat those Holiday Blues

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Ways to Beat the Holiday Blues

Look around us the stress is at level orange we are running ourselves ragged.

It doesn’t seem to be getting any better.

We all come under the holiday blues, sometime during this season.

Check out the list below for possible solutions.

  1. You need to connect with people. The worst thing any of us can do during the season is to isolate ourselves. Get out be around people.
  2. Set realistic goals. Making a list and checking it twice isn’t just for Santa. Get organized and stick to your agenda.
  3. Make a budget and follow it. Especially during these times where money is tight you need to have a budget. You know deep in your heart that you can’t buy love so don’t try. A well thought out gift is better than quantity.
  4. Contact someone you’ve lost touch with. Call an old friend or a forgotten relative. Spread the love around by being there for someone.
  5.  Be honest with God about your situation. Don’t put on a front of good cheer if that isn’t the way things are. But don’t let the blues rule the reason for this season. Jesus was born in a poor manger. So don’t pout about your situation. Take the time to discover the real meaning of Christmas.
  6. Get plenty of rest. We run ourselves into the ground. Take some time to enjoy and relax.
  7. Let go of the past. Start fresh this year with a few new traditions and plans. Just because it has always been a certain way doesn’t mean you can’t change.
  8. Don’t overindulge in holiday foods. Enough said about this one.
  9. Don’t focus on what you don’t have – focus on what you do have
  10. Get out of yourself and into other people. You know you feel so much better when the spotlight is off you. Look around at all the needs in the community. Be the answer to others needs.

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 12, 2017

Know the Urgency…

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

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Frank’s books are available @

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 10, 2017

Same Mind- Philippians 2

 

Philippians 2 and a marriage plan.

Paul in his letter to the Philippians writes about what we should be doing and thinking about as Christians. Married couples can learn much from the list Paul provides and should apply them to their spouse and marriage relationship.

 

  • Same mind.

Married couples are on a team.

Preferably on the same team.

Through good communication they:

work together,

love together,

believe together,

suffer together and

hope together.

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: frankjwalker | November 9, 2017

Sometimes it’s not in the book…

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Sometimes it’s not in the book.

We are all searching for answers.

We want to do things right and we look for advice anywhere we can.

Some advice is good, some is not so good.

More often than not the advice we get doesn’t quite fit the situation we are in.

So, sometimes we have to make up our minds on our own without the help of others.

It takes prayer, insight and a time to do the right thing.

Yes, seek out advice wherever you can.

However, sometimes it all depends on you.

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

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Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

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Posted by: frankjwalker | November 8, 2017

Smooth seas

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I am not a sailor.

But I understand that real sailors have experienced the seas in all their glory and all their danger.

A good sailor knows how to sail in all kinds of weather.

They are prepared for any and all possibilities.

So it should be with your own life. It would be nice if everyday was just wonderful. But guess what it just ain’t so.

So, you hope for the best and expect that there will be some bumps in the road along the way.

It is very likely going to rain on your parade every once in a while.

I live at the coast.

It’s beautiful here most of the time. I must underline “most of the time”.

So we are always, I really mean always ready for a change in the weather. We carry an extra coat in the car an umbrella and even a blanket or two.

You all that live where weather is real know what I am talking about. You just plan for weather changes and are prepared for all possibilities. It just makes common sense.

So if we know that about the weather why do we get so flumuxed  ( Is that a word?) when bad weather happens in our lives and relationships.

Smooth waters do not make you a good sailor, husband, wife, parent or employee.

It’s when the water gets rough that real sailors and relationships are made.

Hope for calm waters but be prepared for rough seas.

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

1617 Main Street

Cambria, Ca. 93428

805-395-115

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