Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | July 13, 2018

Overcome Depression

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Life skills to Overcome a Depressed mood.

All of these are tough suggestions, especially if you are in the depths of a depressed mood.

However, they are things you can work on and become an overcomer in dealing with depressed moods.

Please understand you may need help and please seek the help of a professional if you cannot pull yourself out of your depression.

I share many resources in my blog and on my site please get the help you need 

  1. Take Control.

There are things that you yourself can control. Take control of those things.

A lot of your life is under your control. The key is to say no to those things that don’t matter and aren’t necessary.

Take control of the simple things in your life to calm things down. When you get to bed, take out the trash, clean up your home or room, pay your bills, do the little things that bring order to your life.

Take control of what you can and let the rest worry about itself.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

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Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | July 12, 2018

Overcome Depression

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Life skills to Overcome a Depressed mood.

All of these are tough suggestions, especially if you are in the depths of a depressed mood.

However, they are things you can work on and become an overcomer in dealing with depressed moods.

Please understand you may need help and please seek the help of a professional if you cannot pull yourself out of your depression.

I share many resources in my blog and on my site please get the help you need.

 

  1. Be Optimistic.

In the middle of depression it is tough to say things will get better.

But be honest with yourself and understand they will. Most of the hassles are in your head. Things rarely turn out the way we think they will. So much goes on in our heads.

Things can and will get better. Be optimistic. It can’t hurt to try.

Count your blessings. You are blessed.

Seek out the good in your life and the lives of others.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | July 11, 2018

Overcome Depression

overcome depression

Life skills to Overcome a Depressed mood.

All of these are tough suggestions, especially if you are in the depths of a depressed mood.

However, they are things you can work on and become an overcomer in dealing with depressed moods.

Please understand you may need help and please seek the help of a professional if you cannot pull yourself out of your depression.

I share many resources in my blog and on my site please get the help you need.

  1. Be stable.

I know you are right in the middle of it. But try to get a hold on your emotions and feelings. The big things are big, and the little things are just that little. Guess what? Most things are just little things.

Handle the little things.

The big things might need the help of someone else. Ask for help.

Be proactive with your feelings.

Walk away, take a deep breath, change your scenery, hug your cat but do something that will help relieve the pressures.

Drugs and alcohol won’t help.

Seek to calm your emotions and stabilize your life situation.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | July 10, 2018

Donate Blood

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all his posts at

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

and check his YouTube channel

“A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | July 9, 2018

Spending Time

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all his posts at

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

and check his YouTube channel

“A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | July 8, 2018

Forty Six Years

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July 8, 1972

Yes, that young smiling couple is my wife Suzanne  and I.

We were married on this day July 8th 46 years ago.

We have been through the good, the bad and we are still here and still madly in love with each other.

That lady in the picture is still “hot”.

My choice for a tuxedo was not so hot.

 

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | July 6, 2018

Keys to Marriage: Part Five

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Keys to a successful marriage

  1. Self-centered.

As best you can get rid of your “self-centeredness”.

Too many times our wants and desires get in the way of our wants and desires for the marriage. Remember always that this is a “we thing” not a “me thing’.

I am not saying to lose yourself in your relationship.

I am saying that there is a give and take in all relationships. In fact, the unique you are what attracted the both of you to each other.

But in a marriage, you become an us and the unique you are shaped by the “usness” of your marriage.

Marriage is never about just me or just you.

If you got into this marriage thing to fulfill your personal dreams and expectations you might be hurting yourself and the marriage.

 

  1. Manage your Anger.

Learn to bite your tongue, zip your lip or whatever it takes to keep your anger under control.

Yes, you have a right to let your disappointment be known to your spouse.

However, you do not have the right to let your anger go ballistic. Anger does not get anyone anywhere.

All of us have the tendency toward flying off at the handle. Know your limits and be quiet or walk away. Please check out day two of this series on fighting fair.

  1. Be Faithful.

Being faithful to your marriage is simply not allowing anyone, anything or even any place to come between you and the intimacy of your marriage.

This includes affairs, friendships, family, media or organizations that take away from your first love, your spouse.

Stay away, run away from any person, place or thing that compromises your marriage vows.

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all his posts at

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

and check his YouTube channel

“A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | July 5, 2018

Keys to Marriage: Part Four

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Keys to a successful marriage

  1. Put your marriage first.

You and your spouse are what it is all about.

Your job, your relatives, your friends are all secondary to the relationship you have with your spouse.

Put your marriage and partner first.

Know that, practice that and do that always.

  1. Poor communication is at the heart of marital problems.

  • Be a Better listener.                                                                                              Listening is more than just hearing. It is understanding, internalizing and empathizing. Listen with your ears and your heart.

  • Establish no fault negotiations.                                                                                            Problems in a marriage are meant to be solved. Blaming and finger pointing won’t get you anywhere. If there is a problem, solve the problem and move on.
  • Acknowledge and have empathy for each other’s feelings.                    A key to your relationship is understanding. Go deep with your partner to understand what is behind the things they say and do. Each of you have a lot of history that you bring to your marriage. That history has shaped your life, your attitude and your expectations. Be open about yourself and your feelings. Be a student of your spouse’s emotions and feelings. Learn from them and about them.

Understanding each other’s feelings is the first, last and continual part of building a strong relationship.

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all his posts at

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

and check his YouTube channel

“A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | July 4, 2018

Independence Day!!!!!

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Happy Fourth of July.

 

 

 

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | July 4, 2018

Keys to Marriage: Part Three

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Keys to a successful marriage

Trust

This relationship of yours isn’t going anywhere if you don’t trust each other.

This trust thing comes with time, understanding and the willingness to let go of some of your control.

If you have doubts, ask. Share your feelings. Get things out in the open. You are both on the same team and want the same things for your relationship. If you don’t have the same goals and

Don’t suspect, respect.

It is the best policy.

Honesty

Be truthful and expect truth in all you do and say. Except maybe for surprises, gifts, parties and such.

That is why you married that guy or gal to be truly who you are and open to each other.

Mutual support.

Help be the best, for and with each other. You are on a team and you are both each other’s cheer leaders. Be your spouses biggest fan. That includes holding them up in front of others. It is all about richer and poorer, sickness and health, hard times and good times. It’s one for all and all for one.

Praise your partner.

John Gottman, the famed marriage therapist says that for every negative comment we make we must make 20 positive comments to overcome the negativity.

So, it is better to refrain from the put downs than having to make up for them in the future.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

Check out all his posts at

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

and check his YouTube channel

“A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

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