Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | November 14, 2018

Beat the Holiday Stress #2.

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5 Ways to Beat the Holiday Stress.

The holidays are here and they seemed way too come to early this year. Take some advice and get in control of the hassles and stress that comes with this season.

Get into the holiday spirit and not the holiday melt down with these helpful holiday tips.

  1. Spread out Santa’s work.

Enlist the help of your spouse and kids in holiday preparations.

Give the kids gifts to wrap, get their help making the cookies. This is a way to pass down those holiday recipes to the kids.

Don’t be the only one doing the shopping and give out a list to your spouse.

You husband needs to share in the gift buying and then he will know what has been bought too.

Don’t decorate alone. Schedule a family decorating day. Turn on the holiday music make some snacks and have fun.

This is all about relieving your stress. Sharing the holiday chores will help.

If you are experiencing more than the holiday blues, or think you may be depressed, take control of your mental health by seeking counseling.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

 

Check out all his posts at

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

 

and check his YouTube channel

“A Marriage Minute”

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Frank’s has written several books that are available @

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Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | November 13, 2018

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Frank J Walker LMFT

 

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

 

Check out all his blogposts at

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

 

and check his YouTube channel

“A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

 

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | November 13, 2018

Beat the Holiday Stress #1.

holiday crazy2

 

Five Ways to Beat the Holiday Stress.

The holidays are here and they seemed way too come to early this year. Take some advice and get in control of the hassles and stress that comes with this season.

Get into the holiday spirit and not the holiday melt down with these helpful holiday tips.

  1. Downsize the Holidays this year.

Especially with the way the economy has been, you simply can’t afford the expense and stress the holidays bring.

Plan on making this season small and comfortable for you and for your pocket book.

If you’re buying a gift for every sibling, aunt, uncle and in-law, set a price limit. Draw names this year and buy for just one nice gift for one person.

Schedule a holiday dinner with friends and don’t give gifts.

Focus on enjoying one another’s time.

Remember the season is about making memories. Invest in making a memorable time for one another.

If you are experiencing more than the holiday blues, or think you may be depressed, take control of your mental health by seeking counseling.

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

 

Check out all his posts at

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

 

and check his YouTube channel

“A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

 

 

 

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | November 12, 2018

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Frank J Walker LMFT

 

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

 

Check out all his blogposts at

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

 

and check his YouTube channel

“A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

 

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | November 12, 2018

Arguments couples have…

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Arguments that couples have today.

I have been going over the disagreements that couples have in their marriages. Some are big, some are silly but all of them have been issue that couples need to consider and learn to deal with.

Let me know your thoughts and suggestions.

This one is a big deal in many marriages.

Chores.

Yes, work around the house and chores. Couples repeatedly fight tooth and nail over the chores that need to be done around the house and who does them.

Let’s get right to the heart of the matter and deal with this issue.

  • Household chores are a pain, but the chores are a reality that cannot be ignored.
  • There is no such thing as girl chores or boy chores.

There are just jobs that must done around the house. Both of you can complete the jobs that need to be done.

  • Chores around the house are both of your responsibilities.
  • There may be things that you can do better than your spouse and your spouse can do better than you.

Agree as to what those things are and negotiate.

  • Have a plan for completing you tasks around the house. Follow the plan.
  • Agree on the plan.
  • Make this rule. If you make the mess, then you clean it up.
  • Put things you use away.
  • Understand she is not your mother.
  • Understand he is not your father.
  • Do the work as a team. It will get done faster.
  • Be flexible but be considerate.
  • Don’t save everything until Saturday.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

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Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | November 9, 2018

Have Patience…

Frank J Walker LMFT

 

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

 

Check out all his blogposts at

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

 

and check his YouTube channel

“A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

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Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | November 9, 2018

Arguments couples have…

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Arguments that couples have now.

I have been exploring the issues that couples bring with them in to counseling. Here is a silly or not so silly one but has caused strife in many couples’ marriages.

Room temperature.

Yes, room temperature has caused many a hardship in marriages.

Too hot, too cold to much, to little all have become fighting words in some relationships. Many times, these small issues are an insight into much larger issues.

Lack of communication, lack of understand, lack of trust, unwillingness to compromise and control issues are all at the basis of temperature control in your home.

Here are a few thoughts on the issue.

  • Men are usually the warmer folks. Women have the tendency to be a little cooler than men. Understand your physical and emotional differences and compromise.
  • Understand the nature of women. There is a cyclical nature to women and their perception of cold and hot. Be aware of this cycle and accommodate it. This goes for the long haul too. As women age hormonal changes kick in (and I mean kick in) and the temperature needs fluctuate. Be aware of your spouse’s needs.
  • There are recommended temperatures that can save money and help the environment. Use those standards to control the temperature in your home.
  • If you are cold put more clothes on. If you are hot take some clothes off. But be decent about it.
  • Be aware of your environment. Close the door behind you. Take the steps necessary to meet everyone’s temperature needs.
  • Cooperate, compromise, give in. This is a silly little matter when compared to other things. Don’t get heated about the heat.
  • Understand that it gets hot in the summer and cold in the winter. Live accordingly.

 

 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all his posts and view his videos “A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | November 8, 2018

Happiness. Forgiving.

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

 

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

 

Check out all his blogposts at

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

 

and check his YouTube channel

“A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

 

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | November 7, 2018

Help, The Holidays are Here

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Yikes, the Holidays are almost here.

The Holidays can be wonderful and/or can be overwhelming.

Get a handle on them before they handle you. Here are some early bird hints as the Holidays fast approach.

  • Have a Plan.

Start now and decide how you want the Holidays to be. Don’t let the Holidays just happen. You have the time and it is better to be prepared.

  • Prioritize.

Know what matters, don’t guess. Food on the table trumps gifts under the tree. A vacation trip next summer over shadows immediate pleasures. Know what matters and do that.

  • Know your limits.

Yes, you have a credit card but you will have to pay the bills. Don’t go overboard or into debt just to please those around you. There are limits. Buy stuff that will last. Remember buy for quality and forget the idea that more is better.

  • Stick to it.

Yea, I know that “thing” the kids want is on sale. But don’t be swayed, stick to the plan. No impulse buying.

  • The kids won’t die.

No matter what they say your kids will not be harmed if they don’t get the latest, greatest gizmo or fashion.

  • Invest in experiences.

They won’t remember the stuff but will remember the time they spent with you. These experiences build memories. Memories last not toys.

  • Be honest.

You aren’t made out of money and the family needs to know that up front. Times are hard let everyone know the limits.

  • You can’t buy love.

Buying stuff for people does not prove how much you love them. Loving, caring, supporting, listening, helping and being present are real ways to show love. 

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast. Check out all of his posts and view his videos

“A Marriage Minute”

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

Frank’s books are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

Vlog @ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

 

 

Posted by: Frank Walker LMFT | November 6, 2018

Have a weekly plan…

 

Frank J Walker LMFT

 

Frank is a marriage counselor living on the central coast.

 

Check out all his blogposts at

walkertherapy.wordpress.com

 

and check his YouTube channel

“A Marriage Minute”

@ Frank Walker LMFT

http//youtube.com/c/FrankWalkerLMFT

 

Frank’s has written several books that are available @

http://www.blurb.com/user/store/frankjwalker

 

 

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